It actually really hurts to be honest. There's many people I miss in my life right now, some not so much, some an absolutely ridiculous amount. And the ones I miss a ridiculous amount, you can't do anything about, and the ones I don't miss so much, I suppose I could do something about it. But I don't. I don't know why really, I just kind of expect them to get in touch. So I'll use this as an example: I really, really miss my ex's mum, way more than I miss him. But I can't do anything about this, she lives ages away and it would be wrong to get in touch probably. I've heard that saying "once it's over with your them, it's over with their family", which is pretty harsh, but it is true I guess. You can't stay part of their family. Then there's people I miss from college/school that I could give a text, but for some reason I just put it off.
The thing is though, I never expect these people to miss me back. I don't know about you, but I just never think people miss me, I don't think to myself "oh they'll miss me as well". However the other day someone sent me a message completely out the blue saying "miss you jazz", but it's one of those people you can't do anything about, so all I could message back was "miss you too", and it made me feel quite crap. At first I felt really touched and was like, oh my God that's really nice of them, you know, I was actually shocked they messaged me and even more shocked they said they missed me! But then it kind of hit me that even though you miss each other, you both know nothing can be done. In a way, I'd rather they didn't message me, I don't think they miss me as much as I miss them, but knowing that they miss me even just a little bit really hurts. I suppose knowing you are missed by someone and can't do anything about it is actually more painful than missing someone yourself.
Ever felt the same?
Ever felt the same?
Jazz
Oh Jazz, big hugs!!!
ReplyDeleteI know exactly how you feel! What really gets me down is knowing how much I'm going to miss my best friend when she goes off to uni, and how little I'm going to see her, sad times =(
xox
I know exactly what you mean. When I finished university and all my uni friends parted ways it was so depressing. I don't think I anticipated how much I would miss seeing everybody on a daily basis. Plus it's sad that people you thought would stay in touch you haven't spoken to at all (two years later) or they haven't replied to your messages. It still sucks to be honest, but it's partly my fault for not making the effort to visit them more often. Hope you feel better about your situation soon.
ReplyDeleteTo reply to your cake making comment the other day, it's the amount of air you beat into the mixture which creates the height of the cake (and always use the specified tin size to bake in). If you're following my marble cake recipe (thanks for such a lovely comment btw) beat the sugar and butter for about 5 minutes with a handheld mixer to make it nice and fluffy, and when it comes to adding the flour make sure you only mix it until the mixture has combined, not too long, otherwise you knock out all the air you've worked hard to mix in. Hope this helps. Feel free to message me again if you have any problems.
Sorry for the lengthy comment!
It annoys me when people say I mis you and don't make an effot to see me when they can. Like if they just Facebook me and are like, "I miss you, lets hang out soon." but make no plans to actually hang out. I honestly think when most ppl say they miss me it's just because they're bored and have nothing better to do.
ReplyDeleteBut I feel for you and I'm sorry and as always, I'm here for ya!
Oh, I totally know what you mean. I moved to the States (from Argentina) almost an year and a half ago. I left my sister and my sick dad there (my mom passed a year before I left) and haven't seen them since them. It hurts to call them because it reminds me of how far I am and at the same time, I feel like crap because I don't call on a regular basis :/.
ReplyDeleteAnd my sister still occasionally sees her ex's mom, haha. I don't think I could do it, though.